For the part of you that still believes it has to be perfect.
You replay one mistake for days. You redo things until they feel “perfect enough.” You apologize when you’ve done nothing wrong, and rest only feels allowed once everything is done.
That harsh inner voice wasn’t born inside you. It’s the criticism wound. It forms when love or approval seemed to depend on getting things right, and a younger you learned: I’m only okay if I’m perfect.
The criticism wound formed through harshness, so it heals through gentleness. A Gentler Voice is a set of guided worksheets to help you hear the inner critic for what it is, an old voice and not the truth, and slowly answer it with the voice of a kind, steady adult.
What’s inside (12 pages)
Understanding the Criticism Wound: how it forms, the core belief, how it shows up, and what it needs
Whose Voice Is It? Trace your inner critic back to where it first learned its words
How the Critic Shows Up in Me: a self-check of 12 patterns, from perfectionism to procrastination to feeling like a fraud
Inner Critic Tracker: record the critic’s exact words and how much you believed them
Critic vs. Compassionate Voice: rewrite the critic’s words the way a kind adult would say them
The Fear Underneath: discover what your critic is trying to protect you from
Permission Slips: to rest, to make mistakes, to be a beginner, to be good enough
7-Day “Good Enough” Practice: small, safe imperfections, and what really happened
A Letter to the Child Who Tried So Hard: a guided letter to your younger self
For therapists, coaches & healers
These worksheets work well alongside self-compassion, parts-informed, and inner child work, in session or as between-session practice. Includes practitioner notes and a license to use with your individual and group clients.
Two versions, one download
Print PDF: print it and fill it in by hand (print the trackers as often as you need)
Fillable PDF: click and type on your computer or tablet
Both are US Letter size and come together in one zip file you can download right after purchase.
Not sure criticism is your leading wound?
Start with The Core Wound Inventory, a 40-question self-assessment that shows which of the five core wounds is shaping your life right now.
