For the part of you that is still waiting to be left.
Your stomach drops when a text goes unanswered. You ask “Are we okay?” more often than you’d like to admit. You hold on too tightly, or you leave first so you can’t be left.
These reactions aren’t flaws. They’re the abandonment wound, formed when love felt inconsistent as a child and a younger you learned that the people I love will leave.
The abandonment wound formed through inconsistency, so it heals through consistency. The One Who Stays is a set of gentle, guided worksheets to help you understand where the wound came from, notice it when it flares, and slowly become the steady presence your younger self needed.
What’s inside (12 pages)
Understanding the Abandonment Wound: how it forms, the core belief, how it shows up, and what it needs
My Abandonment Story: reflection prompts for tracing the wound back to where it began
How the Wound Shows Up in Me: a self-check of 12 common patterns
Trigger Tracker: log what happened, what you felt, and the story your mind told
The Story vs. The Facts: separate the old story from what is actually happening
Soothe Before You Reach: a 4-step in-the-moment practice and your personal soothing plan
Becoming the One Who Stays: a 7-day tracker for small promises to yourself
Evidence of Staying: a log for noticing every time someone shows up, including you
A Letter to the Child Who Was Left: a guided letter to your younger self
For therapists, coaches & healersThese worksheets work well alongside attachment-focused and inner child work, in session or as between-session practice. Includes practitioner notes and a license to use with your individual and group clients.
Two versions, one download
Print PDF: print it and fill it in by hand (print the trackers as often as you need)
Fillable PDF: click and type on your computer or tablet
Both are US Letter size and come together in one zip file you can download right after purchase.
Not sure abandonment is your leading wound?
Start with The Core Wound Inventory, a 40-question self-assessment that shows which of the five core wounds is shaping your life right now.
